As Thanksgiving approaches, we find ourselves at that time of the year when reflection meets tradition. It is a season to confront the brutal reality of Thanksgiving as a National Day of Mourning for Native Americans, urging us to respectfully acknowledge this truth. Yet, it has evolved into an American family gathering around the table – a dual nature that demands recognition in both its historical context and traditional celebration.
While my personal reflections on Thanksgiving are positive, I acknowledge this stems from not being of Native American descent and belonging to a community with the means to celebrate it bountifully. My father, a Thanksgiving enthusiast, often remarked that Thanksgiving held a unique place among celebrations, accessible to everyone, regardless of religious affiliation. It is a time when we come to the table to share not only the abundance on our plates but also the spirit of connection.
I cherish Thanksgiving because it prompts us to think of others and actively seek to alleviate loneliness and isolation. There’s a sweetness in this, revealing our caring nature. My strongest Thanksgiving memories are of the invitations from my extended family of friends. During college, the parents of my friend Allison made it a tradition to ensure any fellow student without a Thanksgiving invitation found a welcoming seat at their table, which Allison continued into adulthood.
The duality of Thanksgiving – as a day of remembrance and a day of unity – runs deep. To disregard either aspect seems unkind and disrespectful. It is a time when we extend our thoughts beyond ourselves, actively combating loneliness and seeking connection. This spirit extends to the admirable efforts of military personnel and the military culture. Military service members go to great lengths to create a feast at our workplace, reaching out to prevent loneliness among colleagues, ensuring the lowest ranking (and the lowest paid) have a hearty meal.
There is a profound satisfaction in caring for others, fostering connections, and ensuring co-workers have a place at a table, if not at yours. Many of us have been blessed with an abundance that allows us to share, even if it means eating a little less so friends can partake in the meal and togetherness.
As Thanksgiving approaches, may our tables be filled with love and kindness, and may our efforts to reduce loneliness and isolation continue beyond the holiday season. Wishing you a joyous and Happy Thanksgiving.